Good, bad, or maybe?

10 years ago, I made one of the biggest mistakes of my life.

Or so I thought at the time.

I was still living in Atlanta but would be moving soon to NJ.

Even as I prepared to relocate with my family, I was unsure whether I'd stay in school leadership or move into coaching.

One of the positions I was pursuing was a part-time principal position.

Truth is, it really wasn't the best fit for me, and I knew it.

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Make time for those you love

SON: "Daddy, may I ask you a question?"

DAD: "Yeah sure, what is it?"

SON: "Daddy, how much do you make an hour?"

DAD: "That's none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?"

SON: "I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?"

DAD: "If you must know, I make $100 an hour."

SON: "Oh! (With his head down).

SON: "Daddy, may I please borrow $50?"

The father was furious.

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How to get more done this week (plus special announcement!)

We all want to get more done this week.

But if this week becomes like all other weeks (a likely reality for many) then we'll look back yet again and wonder why.

🔎Why we couldn't be more focused.

📋Why we couldn't achieve more.

🎡Why we seem stuck in a perpetual rut.

The truth is, there are reasons that we don't get more done.

Some might call them excuses.

But since they affect so many of us, let's just assume that they're real and need to be identified if they're to be addressed.

Here are some of the most common reasons.

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Does work make you sad?

My friend, a recent immigrant to Israel who travels "home" to the US multiple times per year on business, told me that he feels sad every time he returns to the US. He would much rather be in Israel. This, despite having lived in the US for most of his life (he’s well into his 50s).

As he told me that, it struck me how many people must feel sadness different elements of their work.

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How consonant is your leadership?

‘Cognitive dissonance’ is a term coined by psychologist Leon Festinger back in 1957 in his book A Theory of Cognitive Dissonance. It refers to the discomfort that a person feels when there is misalignment between their behavior and their values or beliefs. It can also occur when a person holds two contradictory beliefs at the same time. In contrast, cognitive consonance exists when ideas logically flow from one another and are consistent.

For example, a person who considers himself orderly and cleans up after himself even when it’s not easy or convenient is in consonance with his beliefs. But if the same person leaves things around, his behavior is in dissonance with his self-identity.

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How to Make You New Year's Resolutions Stick This Time

It’s that time of year again.

When we look at ourselves in the mirror and start berating ourselves.

“Why can’t you ever keep a resolution even for a single week?”

If you’re one of those, the good news - if you can call it that - is that you’re not alone.

How long do most people’s New Year's resolutions last?

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Feeling stressed? Ask yourself this question.

A lot of the stress we experience is generated by the fear of the unknown. What I often do to control my own stress levels is I ask myself, "what's the worst that could happen?"

That's the cliff. ⛰️ I then start walking myself back from the cliff and reframing things.

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Take the long, short road

Saturday night, I took the 'long' route home from post-Sabbath services

It's about 2 minutes longer than if I had used the shortcut

But because of heavy rain that fell just minutes before, the shortcut was muddy and treacherous

So, I decided to take the 'long" way home to save myself the possibility of slipping and soiling myself, which would have made the 'short' way 'long' (I hope you're following me on this)

Which, come to think of it, I've been doing for most of my life

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